I worked on gov.uk, on NHS services, on digital systems used by millions of people. My speciality was in Human Centred Design, finding where interfaces break people. By 2024 I was watching my own profession dissolve, and the recruiters had stopped making sense. Underneath the practical problem was a harder one. Who am I without this work? I trained as a psychotherapist because I needed an answer to that. This is the ground I know.
Book a conversationIt is four in the morning again. You have been awake since three, doing the arithmetic. The mortgage, the months, the number in the account. Downstairs there is the glass from last night, the one that was going to be one.
Yesterday you sent three applications. You have not heard back from the eleven before them. You have started to wonder whether it is the applications.
When someone asks how it is going you say fine. The true answer would take an hour and you do not have the words for it, so you have got good at saying you are working on a few things.
What frightens you is not the money, although the money frightens you. It is that you cannot find the part of you that existed before the work, and you are not certain there ever was one.
You might be here because
Part of your role is now done by something that does not get tired. You may have been asked to help train it. Nobody in the business is going to say out loud what that means for you.
The money is the first problem. The second one arrives later, usually at night, and it is about who you were when you had the job.
Nothing is wrong, exactly. That is the difficult part. You did the things you were told would work, and they have not turned out to mean what you were promised.
This is not career coaching. I am not going to rewrite your CV or teach you to interview. This is therapy, with someone who spent twenty-seven years inside the industry that is currently disappearing and then trained in psychosynthesis on the other side of it. You will not have to explain what an org restructure feels like, or what it is to reapply for your existing role, or what it is to be the oldest person in the room.
About meI help men navigate uncertainty, reconnect with who they are beyond their job, and discover what might be trying to emerge from this transition.
- Pete Pavan, Our Time Is Now
No commitment and no pressure. A free first conversation, to work out whether I am the right person for this.
Book a conversationOur Time Is Now is a private psychotherapy practice in Little Chalfont, Buckinghamshire, three minutes on foot from Chalfont and Latimer station on the Metropolitan line and a few minutes by car from Amersham and Chorleywood. I work with men going through redundancy, job loss, technology burnout, mobile technology and screen overwhelm, midlife change, and the particular anxiety that comes with watching artificial intelligence arrive in your industry.
Most of the men I see have spent years being capable and useful and busy. When that gets interrupted, by a restructure or a redundancy or simply a growing sense that something no longer fits, it is disorienting in a way that is difficult to admit to anyone. My approach draws on psychosynthesis, an integrative model that takes all of who you are seriously, not only the part that is struggling.
I see clients in person in Little Chalfont in a calm, private room with free parking, and online across the UK. If you are looking for a therapist near Amersham, Chorleywood, Chesham, Rickmansworth or Gerrards Cross who understands what is happening to work, I would welcome a conversation.